How we think affects how we feel. How we feel affects how we act. Often our thinking is automatic. We don’t even question the thoughts that come to mind. Our thinking can be fueling the fire that is consuming our love and happiness!
When we find ourselves acting in ways that cause ourselves and those around us pain, if we back up to what we were thinking before we “snapped”, we will find distorted thought patterns. We are so used to our own distortions that we believe them to be reality. While they become our experience while we believe them, they are enormous limitations on finding freedom where we are and moving forward into a future of choice. You have total authority to change what’s in your head and your head only.
While that might sound like bad news, when we change how we think it changes how we feel. When we feel differently we take different actions. Everyone around us is affected by the different actions and therefore, has no choice but to change as well. Change yourself and the world changes by default. How it changes is beyond your control. How you change is within your control.
Look at the following categories of thought distortion and see if there is a distortion or two that’s limiting your potential for love and happiness right now:
There are a number of other distortions which you will discover through coaching. You don’t have to wait though…simply by beginning to become aware that your thinking fits into one of these distortions of reality you have stepped on the path of a new way to think, feel, and act. It takes intention and dedication, one moment at a time. If you forget, the pain is the reminder. The pain is not a punishment, simply a reminder that you’ve slipped into a distortion that you are mistaking for reality. This path is always here, in front of you and leads to a new way of living where you hold the creative reins in the present and can direct your future intentionally and consciously. You get to STOP adding fuel to the fire that’s consuming your happiness.
”Sweet are the uses of adversity,
Which like the toad, ugly and venomous,
Wears yet a precious jewel in his head.”
– William Shakespeare
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It may be that you’ve served the purpose that you were brought together for and now it’s time to move on or it may be that mistaking distorted thinking for reality has undermined your dreams. You have the power to change how you think, feel, and act, and we are here to coach you to your power in the present and a future of your design.
Contact Journey Beyond Divorce to schedule a complementary coaching session with one of our superb coaches.