One of the things I struggle with is change. The need for it keeps sneaking up on me. Tenacity is one of my gifts. On the one hand, it is a gift to be able to stick with something until it is completed. On the other hand, it prevents me from seeing what might really be happening as I put my head down and move forward, frequently with a lot of effort and not a lot of results.
So after a tense weekend in which my mission (though I hadn’t recognized it as such yet) was to get my partner to do what I saw as the next step for us and his mission was to resist, I began to see that this gift was a two sided coin. My efforts to change “who he is” or “who he is being” were fruitless. Those efforts are always fruitless. Change happens from within, and not because I seek it in another.
This morning with some sleep, I can see that the only person I can change is me. I can also see that I have nothing to lose by being the change I want to see in this relationship, and I have curiosity and an adventurous heart about the new perspective. I have some new, excited energy that will allow me to work on my own change.
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” - Mahatma Gandhi
What personal change do you want to make? How is resisting change holding you back?
Post written by Mary Burns Hoff.