How do you find hope in the new year during divorce? While living in turbulence and uncertainty throughout divorce, life feels hard at best and often impossible to manage. Struggles with your finances, stbx, kids and perhaps even your faith feel like a vice closing in on you…with no place to turn.
New hope during divorce is not found in your circumstances, but rather in how you choose to experience them.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll
As you contemplate your divorce on new years eve day, how would it be for you to divorce with less suffering? The secret to experiencing your divorce with more hope and greater ease is found not in your circumstances, but your perspective, beliefs and attitudes.
Without anyone or anything changing, your experience can dramatically improve providing hope in the new year during divorce.
We often unwittingly sabotage our own desires with the stories (nightmares) that we tell ourselves. For instance:
Change your story and you change your emotional experience!
12 Step Divorce Recovery programs have been so successful because they encourage members to have the courage to change what they can, accept what is out of their control and discern the difference between the two. Central to 12 Step programs is also the belief in a higher power, a power greater than ourselves who is at work in all circumstances, knows our needs and desires to comfort us as we surrender our struggles. This belief is guaranteed to foster new hope in the new year during divorce.
Here are a few suggestions to help you veer from thoughts of fear, doom and devastation to the belief in something better.
This too shall pass
Look how far I have come
I choose peace
The Serenity Prayer (as much or as little as fits for you)
God, grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change…
Courage to change the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference.
(Here is the seldom displayed 2nd verse)
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it.
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
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