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Creating Your Divorce Support Team after divorce divorce support manhattan nyc post divorce support team Jan 27, 2015

By Lisa Brick


Divorce is  a lonely and isolating process initially yet it does not have to remain that way. As confusing and painful as splitting up a marriage, a family, and a life can be, with the appropriate support the experience can be one of clarity, growth, and confidence. While this may s...

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Mind Chatter - Joy's Thief divorce fear finding peace mind chatter worry Jan 27, 2015

By Karen McMahon


What causes us to lose our peace and joy?

Financial instability.  Complicated health issues.  Sudden unexpected loss…of a loved one…a job…a relationship. Frustration or disappointment around raising teenagers or caring for elderly parents.  Actually, it is more general than that...

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Intimacy After Divorce: What's The Risk? after divorce companion dating intimacy post divorce Dec 26, 2014

By Lisa Brick


intimacy (n)

in·ti·ma·cy[ íntəməssee ]

  1. close relationship: a close personal relationship
  2. quiet atmosphere: a quiet and private atmosphere
  3. detailed knowledge: a detailed knowledge resulting from a close or long association or study

Both pleasure and pain are risks of intimac...

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The Greatest Obstacle Men Face In Getting Support asking for help divorce for men overcoming pride in divorce Oct 15, 2014

By Trent Hand


I have a confession to make.  I’m not always proud of this and it’s something my wife has been dealing with for a few years now, helping me work through it.  Really, I’ve struggled with this since childhood and to a large degree I feel I learned this from my father, though it’s ulti...

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The Secret to a Peaceful Divorce and saving on Attorney Fees compassion divorce hostility negotiating open-minded peaceful divorce Apr 27, 2014

By Lisa Brick


There are obvious differences in perspectives and opinions between people. How individuals approach their perspectives and opinions determines how much emotional and financial carnage they’ll experience as they navigate their way through divorce.

When one or both parties is bunkere...

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Action: The Third Step in the Journey Toward Peace action comfort zone post divorce pre divorce Mar 14, 2014

To read about the first two steps, begin here...

Step 1:  Awareness - The first step in becoming conscious of our role in every upset is awareness.  It is the beginning of witnessing our own perspectives and behaviors…the practice of ‘mindfulness’.

Step 2:  Acceptance - Realizing that we have a pa...

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The Only Way Out is Through: Getting Beyond the Pain of Divorce being healing struggle support Feb 22, 2014

Many of us do anything to not feel our pain.  We unconsciously throw moderation to the wind and numb ourselves in excess.  We OVER eat, drink, watch sitcoms, work, exercise, medicate, and shop.  We fill and stuff and numb ourselves so that we don’t have to feel.  And the pain always returns.

You ha...

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Creating Intentional Relationships - What do I want and why? creating healthy relationships dating healthy relationships meeting people relationships setting intentions Feb 16, 2014

By Lisa Brick

Once divorce is settled, life has become more predictable, and you are feeling ready to open yourself up to meeting new people the next step is often asking yourself what you want now, why you want it, and how you can intentionally create it?

Something is missing though, something i...

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Mending Your Marriage fixing marriage mending marriage stages of divorce Dec 17, 2013

If  you are seeking marriage counseling consider the following:

How long it's been since you were truly happy in your marriage? Has a sudden change in you or your spouse turned your marriage upside down and left you unsure of your future?

Below, we will examine the differences between marriage cou...

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Finding Joy Amidst Struggles This Christmas christmas grace holiday holidays love peace Nov 30, 2013

By Lisa Brick


Shortly we will be celebrating Christmas

We will be with family we haven’t seen for a while as well as family we see every day.  Some of us will be without family we used to have who have passed on, moved away and aren’t able to make it back, or dropped out from fall out.  When you...

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Acceptance: The Second Step in the Journey Toward Peace acceptance action awareness divorce empowerment fear transformation victim mentality Nov 23, 2013

We discussed Awareness as the first step toward peace…a practice of mindfulness or witnessing our thoughts, feelings and actions.  Instead of seeing things as happening to us, when we are aware or conscious of our part in every circumstance, we realize we have choices.  Awareness Enlightens us so th...

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A Personal Journey fear freedom personal growth rebuilding struggle Oct 22, 2013

A guest post by Sara Klar.  Her personal journey

It happened just rounding 4 years ago this summer that John, my long term partner of 12 years, checked out of our relationship.  Suddenly he stopped calling throughout the day to share, plan, and relay goings on as he had always done. Suddenly he tol...

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