How often have you started to share something you’ve been thinking only to have the person you are speaking with begin to contradict you? It’s rare for any quality communication to take place after this happens. It’s more likely that you’ll end up arguing, or going silent and keeping your thoughts t...

By Lisa Brick

What if the divorce process could be a crash course in discovering outdated and limiting belief systems and thought patterns about life, love, relationships, family, and money and letting them go forever?  Would your pain have less sting and more promise if you could discover what y...

By Lisa Brick

What happened to that couple so enthusiastic to join their lives together?  How did it happen that there is so much anger, resentment, blame, and hurt that those aspirations are lying in tatters with all hope of redemption lost?

While it may not feel like it, arriving at this junct...

By Karen McMahon

Fear, much like a circus mirror, distorts our view of reality.

We each have fears as we go through the divorce process.  Our fears are often based in the unknown.  Everything is so uncertain, it is impossible to see around the bend to know what your life is going to look like...

By Karen McMahon

fear |fi(ə)r|
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1. an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat
2. (fear for) a feeling of anxiety concerning the outcome of something or the safety and well-being of someone
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As you go through divorce and feel the ground moving beneath you…so many aspects of your life shifting and changing, it is easy to hold on tight, to stay within your comfort zone.  That feeling of knowing what you have and what to expect SEEMS the best choice compared to venturing beyond the borders...

Guest post by: Lee Block, Post Divorce Coach

Dating after divorce can seem daunting.  For some it is easy, they just slide back into the social scene without skipping a beat, but for most facing a firing squad may seem more appealing.  The fact is, we are predisposed to be a unit, and that nee...

By Karen McMahon

The way we draw what we want to us is by developing clarity around our desires.  When I was going through my divorce, I was worried about where I would live and how I would be able to make a living while caring for my two school age children.  I was encouraged to write down my...

By Karen McMahon

One of the most difficult aspects of divorce is that everything changes. During the holidays this can weigh especially heavily as past family rituals and festivities transition into something else, which initially may seem disappointing in comparison.

How can you begin to cre...

By Karen McMahon

What Causes Codependency and How to Begin to Heal

Marriage does not cause Codependency; it is just a place where it is practiced a lot. The roots of Codependency are always in childhood. Controlling, critical, abandoning, abusive and shaming parents and caretakers inflict the wo...

By Karen McMahon

What is co-dependence and how can I know if this is something that I need to look at within myself?

Answer the following questions and you will see where you fall on the codependence spectrum.

1. Do you place your partner's needs ahead of yours?
2. Have you ever hit or been hit by
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By Karen McMahon

Envisioning and Creating Your New Future

If you could design your ideal life what would it look like?  Most people actually don’t know.  We are so programmed to think about what we don’t want, couldn’t afford, can’t have, what won’t work…that we rarely give ourselves the gift of...